When An End Is A Beginning

Published on 31 May 2025 at 13:26

When I ‘discover’ a new voice (typically a good few months after they have been discovered by the masses!) I fall hook, line and sinker…as my bestest mates will attest; see the collective eye roll (I am *that* predictable) – enter stage right, Benson Boone (I’m swooning!)

 

I’m sure you heard about him (long before I did!), you know the young, Freddie Mercury inspired, moustachioed back flipper; who walked away from American Idol sometime after Katy Perry had predicted he could win the series. And now album number 2 is imminent and he is playing to stadiums across the world…turned out alright eh?!

 

That got us thinking about the number of ‘artistes’ who didn’t WIN the competitions they had entered, but you wouldn’t know it, given their subsequent successes: I was *that* middle aged woman who went to see Olly Murs at the o2 the other weekend (runner up to Joe McElderry); Susan Boyle (runner up to Diversity) and One Direction (finished *third* to Rebecca Ferguson and Matt Cardle!)

 

And don’t start us on the US…Adam Lambert (Queen’s current Mr Mercury) was an American Idol runner up and, YOWZA, Jennifer Hudson placed SEVENTH and now she has an EGOT – Emmy, Grammy, Oscar and Tony Award to her name!

 

All proof, surely, that something far better can come from perceived failure, loss, rejection…isn’t that right C…?

As I would say – true story! I was perusing my social media memories  you know the way you do the other day, and came across one that reminded me just how much can change and how fast. It said “I never imagined a year ago that my life would look like it does today.” And boy is that true. So much changed for me in that year, and a lot was unexpected and could have been negative. I had moved 200 miles for a job that I had hoped would be great, but proved to be somewhat toxic, and ultimately, I was made redundant. Leaving me 200 miles from my family and without work. However, I was able to look at that as a way to start over. I got a job that made my heart happy – although the bank manager less so! And that freed up time to create Transcend Trauma, which was a dreamed about passion project for so long, and is now 1 year old and growing daily. See, things can look like ends when really, they are the start of something amazing.

Is there something there about what is meant to be, will be? I don’t know. I know that certain things have fallen into place, and I have been where I have meant to be at the right time. For example, the house I was supposed to buy fell though, meaning I was in lodgings far longer than anticipated. Luckily, I had a great landlady. However, during that time her partner very suddenly died, and she came to need me around, so the fact I was there and we had each other was somehow meant to be. We remain good friends. The house – well, I went on to find an even better one!

 

I guess sometimes it is about reframing – a word we are considering adding to our tagline - what do you think? Restoring, rewriting, rebuilding and reframing? Because sometimes the rebuilding comes from the ability to reframe what life has given you, to see it from another angle and take something good from it.

 

Sometimes doors must close, relationships have to end, things need to go in order for new opportunities to present themselves. What endings are you facing and how can you reframe it to see the new opportunities that could be around the corner?

 

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